Come back home to each other.
Most mothers expect their daughters to abandon their relationship in favor of acceptance by their peers.
We’ve heard it many times, her bedroom door will be closed, head buried in the phone because you are no longer #1. But what if I told you this doesn’t need to happen? That daughters are meant to be in relationship with mothers right through their teen years and every stage following. In fact, they need their mother because they mature through their emotional connection with her.
In my work with hundreds of mothers and daughters I have found that daughters who stay in conversation with their mothers through their teen years, stay in relationship. They have less to repair as adults.
Whether you want to prevent, protect or heal your relationship with your daughter, this is the place. Daughters who feel heard and understood by their mother, know and accept themselves because their mother does. It’s never too late.
Elizabeth shares about her experience in mother-daughter coaching with her mother:
“Our first session went a lot better than any other conversation I’ve had about sensitive things with my Mom. I expected her to take things personally like she has in the past. But it was nice because my Mom was very receptive. It felt like we were working together, rather than feeling blamed or yelling, we have the same goals.”
Let;s Hold On to Our Girls
You may feel like this is just a phase your daughter’s growing through; separating, pushing back, rejecting your efforts as she finds her way in the world…but here’s the truth, if you’re not conversation, you’re not in relationship.
Simple as that.
Your daughter needs you and I know you need her. But you're feeling unsure how to help her when she is struggling, how to guide her in a way that feels supportive and empowering and say the ‘right’ things that don’t cause her to shut off from you. You just want to be in her world.
You deserve to be the person your daughter turns to when she’s in need of support.
We can’t change the past, but we can learn from it and take new actions now. We can heal what’s hurting, understand what’s not working and be proactive in our relationship to ensure we don’t lose our daughters.
Here you will:
Develop clarity around what your daughter has been trying to tell you.
Have a full picture of what she needs from you right now and moving forward.
Understand how to meet her right where she is to invite her into a close relationship.
Safely share what is on your heart and feel heard like never before.
Gain tools that form your new approach and guide you in your relationship for years to come.
Learn how to stay in conversation to keep her talking and coming to you.
Navigate her emotions in a way that has her feeling heard and understood.
Know how to approach the hard to have conversations that you’ve been putting off.
Feel attuned to your daughter while preserving your energy and showing up on full.
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Laura shares about her experience in mother-daughter sessions with her 18 year old daughter.
“You see Hilary’s posts and you think ‘oh that would be nice with my daughter’ but it really is so much more. It has that ripple effect and improves so many things. I don’t think you can put a price tag on that. If you’re seeing it and feeling it, don’t wait, just do it. Because things will get better rather than not doing it and things get worse. It’s never too late. You won’t even know if you do this now all the things you probably won’t end up going through because it’s preventative measures. A good relationship with your child is for life.”
LET’S WORK TOGETHER
Private Coaching
This is for mothers and daughters of all ages. Come alone or as a couple and experience immediate shifts in your relationship. Through private and personalized guidance, I will help you heal what’s hurting and open your eyes to mother-daughter relationship dynamics that have pulled you apart. Once you find yourself within these patterns, you will return to each other with knowledge of what to change to have a mutually supportive relationship moving forward. Truly this life changing work should be required learning for every therapist and woman.
You have my undivided attention for three months through private sessions individually and as a couple, to understand and heal your relationship. Together we’ll peel back the layers to uncover the hurts and pave a new path forward.
