A free live class with Hilary Mae
The Holiday Conversation
What to say, and what not to say, when things with your daughter aren't what they used to be and the holidays are coming.
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Maybe she's coming home and you're already rehearsing what not to say. Maybe she isn't coming at all. Either way, you've been bracing for weeks, and you've told yourself this year will be different without knowing yet how.
The holidays don't create the distance between you. They amplify what's already there. Which means the conversation you're dreading is also the one with the most room in it, if you know what to say and what to leave unsaid.
This hour isn't a list of tips to get you through December. It's a look at why the holidays stir up so much between mothers and daughters, what your daughter is really listening for when you're together, and what becomes possible when you stop bracing for the visit and start leading the relationship.
In the class
What we'll talk about
- ✓Why the holidays bring up what's been quiet all yearAnd why it isn't a sign that something is wrong with you, or with her.
- ✓The comment that can undo a whole weekendIt's almost never the big topic. Most mothers don't realize they're making it.
- ✓What your daughter is listening forUnderneath the conversation about plans, presents and who's coming when.
- ✓Why trying harder this year can backfireAnd what the mothers I work with do instead.
You won't just hear from me
Two women who've done this work are coming with me.
One had a daughter who was very much in her life, and a relationship that had become careful and polite after a hard moment. The other had a daughter who had pulled away completely. They'll share what the holidays used to feel like for them, what changed when they did this work, and what it's like with their daughters now. Bring your questions. I'll be answering them at the end.
Come Wednesday night. Bring your questions, and bring the part of you that's hoping this year can feel different.
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Your guide
Hilary Mae
Mother-Daughter Relationship Specialist, coach, and founder of The Mother-Daughter Company. Before coaching, she spent seventeen years as a licensed counselor. More than 1,000 women have rebuilt trust with their adult daughters through her work, and her conversations about mothers and daughters have reached over a million women.